Cut the BS
Your coaching wake-up to help you get out of your own way
👋 Welcome to another edition of Cut the BS! A newsletter dedicated to shining light on the blind spots that are keeping you stuck.
The intention of this newsletter is to give you the tools you need to heal, lead, and scale with ease.
Being a human is HARD, and being a founder, leader, creative can be even more challenging and isolating. My hope is that these newsletters become a place for you to feel a little more connected and supported on your journey.
This month we talk about reflection and integration. Want to do a deeper dive into this topic with me? Join me for my 4th annual 2023 Retrospective + 2024 Strategy WORKshop on January 18th. Registration opens next week -- keep an eye on your inbox for more details.
Before we jump in...
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Starting in 2024 Cut the BS will only be released 1-2 per month. Giving me more creative time for other things.
- Because my team has grown, I’ll be taking 2 new private coaching clients in Jan. If you're interested, reply to this message and I'll send you the info.
This week's wake-up:
What was your biggest FAIL in 2023?
2023 was my most successful professional year since my exit in 2018.
2023 was also the most difficult personal year of my entire life.
My professional highs (and community) literally saved my spirit from becoming completely broken and never returning to my body.
As a deep-feeler, successful 3X founder, certified executive coach, and trauma-informed embodiment teacher, I know one thing for damn sure...
If I do not use the next few weeks to reflect and process 2023, I’ll take my BS right into 2024. I'll cut myself off from the deep healing I need to ensure my personal baggage & blind spots don’t affect my leadership, fog up my success strategy, and reduce my ability to create impact.
In today’s coaching lesson you’re going to do the exact coaching exercise I do (myself, as well as) with my private + group coaching clients.
2023 RETROSPECTIVE
A personal and professional reflection experience
You Need:
- Pen/ paper or a blank digital doc
- Physical space, with big windows, that inspires you (here’s mine)
- Maybe a yummy snack or drink #vibes
- Ideally an hour, but at least 30 mins
- No: Alerts, calls, distractions
I suggest scheduling a day and time when you will ritualize the sh*t out of this. As deep-feelers, we love having things to look forward to. Did you know that research shows we enjoy the *anticipation of our vacations more than we enjoy being on them?
So, schedule your 2023 retro. Pick a place, playlist, and outfit, and start getting excited to reveal all the big beautiful moments and sticky hard stuff from the last 12 months.
Like all coaching exercises I teach this is not easy but it’s S-I-M-P-L-E.
Let’s go.
For every step: Reflect + Choose + Write
STEP ONE: What were my 5 biggest successes in 2023?
For each:
1. Define why you consider it a “success”
2. Name the personal value it honors
STEP TWO: What were my 5 biggest fails in 2023?
For each:
1. Define why you consider it a “fail”
2. Name the personal value it violates
STEP THREE: Step back and notice how your wins + fails are connected
Without any judgement get curious:
1. In what ways are they connected?
2. What do you notice about what you created in 2023?
STEP FOUR: Choose 3 things that need healing (so you can go into 2024 clean)
With massive courage, vulnerability, and brevity name them:
1. ____________
2. ____________
3. ____________
STEP FIVE: Create your healing + forgiveness plan
Forgiveness is both my 5th favorite F-word and the most important and underrated quality of the world’s best entrepreneurs.
You might be thinking “Parker why are we talking about forgiveness when I am trying to simply get clear on my big wins and big fails from last year?”
We accumulate blind spots when we do not forgive ourselves or others.
If you’re committed to 2024 being your most personal and professional successful year ever… you must heal and forgive in all the areas you need to or you WILL bring your BS into 2024 and wipe it all over your team and your big dreams.
Forgiveness is simple but it’s not easy. I’m here to help!
For Step Five you’re going to create your plan from a place of self-trust, then look at the 3 things in Step Four that need healing, and for each:
1. Create a plan that allows you to heal + release + forgive with as little effort and greatest impact as quickly as possible
2. Schedule your commits
3. Share with someone you trust
That’s it. You did it, baby! 👍
Upcoming Events 🌸
Early Bird Registration Opens Jan. 22!
Mark your calendars for June 23-29, 2024, for my 2024 Italian Alps Retreat!
This retreat is designed to fortify and inspire you so that you return home deeply aligned to your values and the big vision you have for your life.
👀 Keep your eyes open! Early bird registration opens VERY soon!
“This retreat was absolutely a peak experience for me that I can't wait to do it again. I feel that I've confronted and accepted something I've been trying to deny for months. I am now better able to be honest with myself and others in the face of anxiety and discomfort.”
— D.J. Jacobson (Author / Technologist)
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January Workshop Announcement!
Join me and other successful deep-feeling founders, entrepreneurs, and creatives for a real-time coaching workshop.
In less than two hours you’re going to:
- Document your 5 biggest wins and 5 most epic fails of 2023
- Discover the wisdom, clues, and ah-ha’s in your wins and fails
- Notice which of your values you honored and violated
- Identify 4 key positive & negative feelings
- Get clear about what needs to happen to process and release any unresolved feelings
- Name + commit to the one thing you must stop doing immediately that is blocking you from success
More details coming soon! Registration opens next week.
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Remember 🌟
This sh*t is hard. You're exactly where you need to be.
You're doing a really, really good job.
🩷 AP
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Meet Angela Parker
Angela Parker is a founder (1X exit), international entrepreneur, Certified Coach, Master Workshop Facilitator, and Certified Trauma-Informed embodiment teacher who teaches deep-feeling entrepreneurs & creatives how to heal, lead, and scale with ease.
Angela designs and facilitates impactful in-person and on-line workshops, masterminds, retreats, and experiences for individuals, leaders, and teams.
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